Hey! Another Hot Chick!
Posted on March 18, 2008
Filed Under about eastwood, life, opinion, truth
If frank discussion of human sexuality causes you to squirm, or you’ve taken a vow of chastity, this isn’t the post for you. Turn, and walk away.
I like sex. I always have. I am an American male still in his pre-Viagra years, and I am very much alive. My lovely wife is a beautiful, attractive, sexually exciting woman, and after nearly 20 years, she still turns me on without any effort on her part. I love her so much, it’s downright stupid.
But I am also a Christian, stuck in an era that might best be called “Rome, 64AD, minutes before Nero fiddles“.
I haven’t had cable TV for 10 years, and rarely watch many regular programs, but what I do see thanks to commercials, movie trailers and network promos (not to mention the actual shows) is a non-stop visual onslaught targeting both of my brains. If you didn’t realize that men have two brains, again I say, “Turn and walk away!”
Even if I never walked past a functioning television, though, I still work on a computer all day, and as a website designer, researcher and information junkie, those same ads are still right in my face. Even the weather.com site will have a “weight loss” ad or some beauty product banner with a hottie there smiling at me, or showing me her navel. Maybe it’s a vacation trip or cruise ad with the prerequisite bikini frolicking shot. Sooner or later, it’s coming. Again.
I suppose I could change jobs, but on my way to work, I’d see billboards and even worse… real live females strutting their stuff, whether they realize it or not. The point is, in America 2008, sexual imagery is non-stop and all but completely unavoidable.
I won’t lie to you. It affects me. I think women are the most delightful creations on the planet, visually speaking. And regardless of the fact that I already have one who I adore and cherish; it’s like a child at the pet shop surrounded by puppies. “Oh, how cute!” Indeed.
Years ago, I saw people like Pastor Don Wildmon and his AFA assault teams, who’d deluge advertisers and marketers with pithy pleas to “Stop!”, and I appreciated their efforts, but laughed them off as though a bug before a steamroller. “No win situation, guys!”
Despite the fact I was correct - that they would barely affect the tidal wave - I now understand what would drive people to attempt such a ridiculous and losing effort; the fact that these things terribly affect the mind, heart and soul of men.
And the poor wives. Firstly, they are forced to compare themselves to airbrushed models with perfect lighting, make-up stylists, wardrobe people and wind machines. That’s completely unfair. It’s no wonder they either let themselves go in a sad and pathetic surrender; or spend their lives buying new boobs, lips, clothes, shoes, hair, faces, pills, lotions and gym memberships.
And “normal” guys aren’t any help. As a man, I happen to know that guys constantly “rate” women, taking every little flaw into consideration as if they were buying a thoroughbred race horse; and they are generally brutal as far as I am concerned. You’d think they all saw themselves as some Hollywood leading man with six-pack abs, the way they downgrade the girls. Personally, if a gal has had a shower in the last two days, I’d give her at least an “8″. Yes, I am kidding. I don’t play that game anymore.
Regardless, unless the wives have the libidos of college co-eds, they stand little chance of keeping their men so satiated that the men never have to deal with the “visual barrage” problem. However, it’s not that it’s even so much a temptation for the men, since I’d like to think that most Christian men would rarely actually physically cheat on their spouse.
But it’s the mental cheating. When we aren’t paying strict attention, it’s so very to easy to simply gaze and say, “Mmmm.” And perhaps that’s all it is. No elaborate fantasies, no plans of action necessary. Yet it’s still lust, no matter how small, and left untreated it will grow like a cancer.
When we are paying strict attention, striving to be upstanding, obedient, “Christian soldiers of valor”; we quickly realize it is a never-ending battle. Hopefully it’s not as tough of a fight for some guys, but I’m a hot-blooded Hungarian which makes me a lowly infantry man - cannon fodder on Satan’s field of war.
Clearly, the power of God is my only weapon, and you can bet I have cried out to Him to supply as much gunpowder as He is willing to give, so that I might push back the enemy - my own stinking mind. It’s a constant struggle, and I hope I soon reach an age where the testosterone subsides and I can go AWOL from the front lines. But I don’t even know if that always happens for everyone?
I literally thrash myself mentally over the issue at times, to the point of cussing myself out for being “a sick SOB” or worse; hating myself for being unable to completely “take every thought captive”. I’ll admit that these days I do better than in the past, but that’s after years of warfare, and I still lose skirmishes all the time. Though it’s pretty much all internal, it’s still enough to drive one loony.
So what is a man to do? Relax and not take it so seriously? Allow himself to simply enjoy the show? Maybe for some guys, but not me.
I want to be free from it, once and for all!
And there it is.
For though I would desire to glory, I shall not be a fool; for I will say the truth: but [now] I forbear, lest any man should think of me above that which he seeth me [to be], or [that] he heareth of me.
And lest I should be exalted above measure through the abundance of the revelations, there was given to me a thorn in the flesh, the messenger of Satan to buffet me, lest I should be exalted above measure. For this thing I besought the Lord thrice, that it might depart from me. And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ’s sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong. 2 Corinthians 12:6-10 KJV
People talk about Paul’s “thorn in his side”, but the passage says “thorn in the flesh” and further calls it “the messenger of Satan”. Doesn’t sound like he plowed into a pricker-bush to me… it sounds like he has a personal “kryptonite” that messes him up big time. Perhaps it’s something specific - even lust - or perhaps it’s just the seed of sin itself that torments him.
But Paul pleaded for it to be removed, and God said, “No.”
And God, being God, had an excellent reason for denying Paul his request; He chose to make sure that Paul would always rely on Him, rather than relying on himself. If you think about it for a moment, that’s huge. It’s the entire point of our Salvation, as a matter of fact.
So does God expect me to be Charlie Chaste? Or does He know full well I will have consistent bouts with lust, and through those bouts, I will draw closer to Him? I’d say it’s both, but neither of us believes I’ll actually become that first one.
Beyond that, guys, I’m not sure what to tell you. Let’s pray for each other, and let’s always remember that God is greater, and we will never be perfect. When you see a sexy lady, think of Him instead, and remember that true fulfillment is in Him.
That’s all I got on that for now. Maybe after a few thousand more battles…
After our little church finally lost most of its saints to old age and passing on to glory, my wife and I found a need to find a new church. I thought I would check out this local Baptist church just down the block.
To my amazement , the church had a wimpy pastor whose preaching had much to be desired BUT the church was run by three mid 20’s females who were literally poured into their pants and had blouses so low, the world would surely blush. They led the singing, and interviewed folks in the audience while most of the members were sipping coffee, and the meeting had already started.
Needless to say, the visuals of these said females overshadowed everything and I knew I must leave. I realize the church is in the world, but how did the world get into the church?
Im still working on this dilemna. Luckily, my wife didnt come with me that day.
Its days like that when women in long dresses are really what the scriptures had in mind.
I’m with you Bro. Bet we’ve shared a few foxholes in this battle!
Visual grenades can be tossed our way without any warning and the battle is on!
If there is one thing this battle has done for me, it is to create a greater longing for Heaven. As Paul states, (paraphrasing) “Wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of sin. Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord…” and then follow those beautiful verses of Romans 8!! Can’t wait for Heaven when the battle is over and our rest is won… ’till then we can pray for each other!
Peace Brother,
Pete
QUOTE “When you see a sexy lady, think of Him instead, and remember that true fulfillment is in Him.”
Excellent idea, I’ll try using the previous post titled “Thank You” the next time I see an enticing woman, I’ll give praise to God rather than to the woman. I’ll say “Thank you God for creating such beautiful creatures, you sure are an amazing creator”. This way the beauty is turned to praise rather than lust
It’s not just the wives though. The little girls, the teenage girls, and single women got to go through all of that. I also think it’s a reason more women are gay these days. And men.
It’s really gross when a straight woman is forced to look at the body parts of other women 24/7.
It’s not just “men” who have that problem, women do too! So I would suggest that everything you said the Bible says for men to do goes for women too!
art - That’s crazy. How does that happen? How does a congregation stand for it?
Pete - Agreed. I am done with this world, but will remain as long as the Lord has plans for me… but I sure wish He’d take me home! My fervent wish is for the day He removed the seed of sin from this wretched body and perfects me as He would have it.
WQ - Interesting approach, and not quite what I had in mind… let me know how that works out for you!
Gar & peta - Your viewpoints are out of my expertise, but I am sure what you say is true. I can’t imagine what it would be like to be a woman in this insane world, but I doubt it’s any better than what us guys are facing. May the Lord bless you for putting up with us!
Heh East,
The answer to your question is simple. Backsliding.
They have tossed the KJ out the window, they have become increased with goods, needing nothing.They have done an upgrade to the traditional old time gospel and are left with a light on the hill that has long since burnt out.
Believers are not exempt from “walking after the flesh”.
Lest I gloat, I found the “eye candy” pleasant to the eye too but knew too much scripture to justify me remaining in their fellowship.
God Bless you East.
I guess this is why they call them “whoremones”
They serve a physical purpose when they serve the body as hormones (chemical messengers), yet how easy satan uses our body systems to lead us into physical and mental temptations.
The acceptance of pornography and tempting displays of sexuality are constantly bombarding the human mind in todays society. It really is like a plague that infects our men, women, and children with awful consequences.
For some years I worked in the rape center assisting in rape exams. Believe it or not men as well as women of all ages are victims of rape…but then again it is a crime of sick violent dominance expressed in a sexual deviant assault. I believe it may be the expression of the raging whormone within that satan uses to his sickening purposes.
A few months back, I was caring for an evangelical minister in the hospital where i work. One of the first comments he made to me was to compliment me on my “youthful figure” with a look of lust in his eyes. I was shocked then offended and humiliated. I wondered how any man can find sexy and “see” my figure in the box like scrubs I purposefully wear. Stiffly I told him I was not here to look good but here to take care of him as his nurse. I was quite uneasy providing care to him and it was a miserable 12 hrs. I felt mentally assaulted by this person then afterwards I felt guilty that I was not able to talk to him in a Christian way and minister to him.
Thank goodness you men are talking about this and ministering to each other, as I fear many woman are quite uneasy to do so. It is tough enough challenge to teach and mentor our young women to dress and behave respectfully and we are failing each other when women do not take a moral stand and value self respect and purity.
It is a challenge that each of must take a stand on.
While i enjoy compliments, sexual ones are difficult and offensive to me, and make me envy the burka. My 2 cents is it is humilating to be looked at in a lustful way. Maybe many women do not feel this way but I would venture to say there are many more who do.
Please do not take me as self rightous…I am a sinner like all of you and not free of the tempations to sin. Where would we be without Jesus! God bless you all for your reaching out to one another and to Jesus for healing.
I wanted to provide another viewpoint from a Christian womans perspective.